By Makayla Campbell
LET’S FACE IT! You’ve been twisted, conflicted, and undecided on what you deserve and need!
What you fail to remember is that your worth is everything you will ever need. Take that trip you’ve been wanting, dedicate time in your day for you; implement one thing each week that you see yourself doing in the future because you deserve first class treatment.
We’ve been living in the midst of a pandemic for two years now— let's not forget that. Now, in those two years, think about all the accomplishments you’ve achieved. I left a college that was not right for me and pursued teaching theater with a ton of amazing kids. I moved out from my parents and lived with roommates, which eventually led to moving into my own place. I switched career paths to truly pursue entrepreneurship and I wouldn’t change a thing. Many people (including young adults) go through changes. Whether it’s simple or more challenging, it’s still a significant transition that you made; proving that you know how you should be treated, and you know what you will or will not put up with. You KNOW your worth is more important than anything! I know what it feels like to not believe you’re worthy of anything, but I’m here to tell you now—that statement is the most incorrect statement to believe. It all begins with you and how you think. If you wake up each day not believing in yourself, you’re setting yourself up for a life of negativity.
Here are 3 things I taught myself:
1 - WAKE UP!
When I wake up in the morning, I remind myself who I am and what I'm working for. I like to say this statement, “I am enough, I know what I deserve, I am beautiful, I am smart, and I am powerful.” Throughout the day I remind myself that I’m giving my all early in life so that I can live life to the fullest now and always. I have been told that what I’m going for is a lot; that I need to be realistic. Everyone has a different definition of reality. My reality is having a 5- bedroom home that I built in a nice area. My reality is not working 9-5 to achieve my needs. My reality is living my boujee lifestyle with ease. We have to say what we want as declarations; no more casually saying “I wish” or “One day”; we say it as if we already have it because you do and will.
2 - FIGHT THROUGH!
I taught myself to take challenges/obstacles and prepare for them. Nothing is perfect and there will be roadblocks in the way that need to be overcome to avoid slowing down the process. Sometimes you can guess what obstacles may appear by the situation. For example college was my situation, and the obstacle was figuring out what I would do after I left. I knew I wanted to work and stay involved in teaching, so the issue was finding the job that fit in a field I was still learning. Luckily, I remained calm and embarked positively on the journey of job searching—until I made it. You can also learn from others and hear about other similar obstacles. Sometimes, you just have to think a little bit into the future to make predictions; but don’t go too deep in, you still want to be present with what you're doing. It's just good to be prepared and keep what you want aligned with your own values.
3 - ME TIME!
3. Last but not least, I take time for myself. Over the past two years I learned to just be with myself. I moved to Phoenix so I had to make friends on top of working from home. This made it challenging to meet new people. I was fortunate to live somewhere that hosted events, and I met some amazing people who are now my friends! That being said, I had become comfortable being with myself so I still spend time doing my own things to make sure I don’t forget who I am and my growth. I enjoy going to some places alone and having self-care sessions. Taking time for yourself allows you to learn more about yourself. I used to think my friends knew more about me than I know about myself, but now I know that’s far from true. I learned that I enjoy connecting with my thoughts and thinking about what my thoughts mean. I enjoy a quiet night with flickering candles and music—and just being. I still spend time with family and friends, but I make sure to implement things in my life that are just for me.
Those are key things I've done to grow, and they are tips I think everyone should practice. Young adults, especially, may feel pressure to carry the world. They often feel, with so much happening, they are not seen, but I promise you are; you’re doing your absolute best, and you are worthy of greatness. Take your time to learn more about you, then refocus. You’re not alone in this journey of life that we’re all figuring out everyday. Remember, you are the definition of being worthy.