By Jojopahmaria Nsoroma
According to Chinese astrology, 2020 was the Year of the Rat, which is believed to bring wealth, prosperity, and abundance. The Chinese New Year fell on January 25th of 2020, so when COVID-19 was declared a global pandemic on Friday, March 13th the world was thrown into a ‘never before’ global shutdown of businesses which caused an enormous economic breakdown. So much for the promise of wealth and prosperity! But I learned by the end of the year that rats can be quite deceptive. 2020 turned out to be one of the most prosperous years in my journey as a self-employed entrepreneur. Not only did I earn 10% more than in my previous four years, but I also established new streams of income that have become long-term situations.
So, how did I thrive during a global pandemic? How did I earn business income during a time when unemployment rates in the United States rose to 14.8% among non-military persons, and 40% of all those unemployed remained so for more than six months? The answer is that I broke through the fear and uncertainty by using the following three tools of self-mastery: spiritual intelligence, emotional intelligence, and self-worth. My field of expertise is in consulting with community services, but despite this being among the essential services, I believe anyone who learns to practice these self-mastery tools can earn income no matter what the circumstance. This is because I truly believe there is always treasure in trouble and that the Universe is always out to “gift me”, not “get me”! I will discuss each of the three tools in more detail, but first want to share my definition of self-mastery.
Self-mastery is the ability to choose not to be a victim to negative life circumstances or negative people. This does not mean that life and people won’t challenge you, but you can choose to respond to the challenge through love instead of fear. During childhood our experience of the world is determined by the people, places, things, and situations around us, over which we have no control. We are totally dependent upon our external world, and the people in it, for physical and emotional survival. When something goes wrong, i.e., our needs do not get met, or something or someone hurts us, we have no choice but to experience ourselves as victims, and our world as unsafe. As adults however, we can learn to respond to our problems, needs, and painful situations from the inside-out. In adulthood, all of our problems must be resolved internally before the results can manifest externally. Self-mastery is a practice and a discipline that grows our internal ability to successfully overcome difficult challenges and successfully adapt to unwelcome changes.
All humans possess intelligence – the ability to learn and apply knowledge and skills. In 1983, Howard Gardner, a psychologist from Harvard University, presented a theory that people do not have just an intellectual capacity, but have many types of intelligence including musical, interpersonal, spatial-visual, and linguistic intelligences.
The following three aspects or learning fields of self-mastery are part of this multiverse of human
understanding and perception:
Number 1 - Spiritual Intelligence: This is the field of knowing and aligning with the people, places, and situations that matter most to the well-being of your soul. In this field we find awareness of living on purpose and having a sacred contract for our human existence. You master spiritual intelligence by asking, “How do I serve and contribute to the evolution of humanity?”
Number 2 – Emotional Intelligence: This term was made popular in the 1990’s by Daniel Goleman’s book of the same name. Essentially, this is the field of knowing and regulating your emotions to improve or enhance interpersonal relationships. Within this field is the ability to be empathetic. You master emotional intelligence by asking, “How can I help others and myself feel better?”
Number 3 – Self-worth: This is the ability to believe in your value as a human being. Unlike self-esteem, which is based on what I experience externally, self-worth emanates from within. If I have little or no self-worth I can not experience healthy self-esteem. You master self-worth by asking, “Am I open and willing to receive my blessings?”
The Monday after COVID was declared a global pandemic, I began to think about the staff of an organization that I cared about very much. I had facilitated an annual retreat for them in November of 2019 and had a very powerful and fulfilling experience. I moved into my spiritual and emotional intelligence and asked myself how I could be of service to them so they could be emotionally and spiritually supported for their work with community members. By the end of March, I was using Zoom to provide healing circles and one-on-one counseling for staff on a volunteer basis. By June I was also providing consultation to administrative staff and facilitating all-staff emotional wellness sessions. In January, I had done the 21-day Abundance Meditation Practice by Deepak Chopra. By July, this self-worth discipline to consciously open myself to receiving my blessings manifested as me receiving payment from the organization for all of my time and effort going back to the end of March. I continued consulting with the organization for the remainder of the year and now have annual contract as their senior consultant.
It’s important to know that I have been learning self-mastery for at least 20 years, but the tools I use and the principals behind them can work for anyone regardless of the length of time you’ve been doing your self-development work. COVID-19 has brought much fear, pain, disruption, and grief. But, it has also brought tremendous opportunity to become creative and successful by accepting and adapting to the changes humanity has been given. Most businesses can no longer operate in the same manner they did before March of 2020. Putting people above profit is the spiritually and emotionally intelligent right thing to do, and can provide the way forward. For example, if you are in the travel business, instead of crying about the money you are losing, think about how you can support people to travel safely, or provide learning opportunities for them to plan their dream vacation for when the pandemic ends. By using your spiritual and emotional intelligences, and strengthening your self-worth, I believe you can have new money streams in ways you could not have imagined. It only takes a willingness to consider how to be of service to humanity, how to help others and yourself feel better, and to believe with great certainty that you are worthy of your blessings.
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