By Wendy Campbell
I became wiser as I got older, like most people do. And I realized that I allowed others to value me based on what I was to them. I didn't realize the value I was to myself. What was it about me that I liked? That I valued? For a long time I didn't know.
People would never think that I was a shy person when I was younger. Some people have actually told me they don't believe it. I wouldn't voice my disagreement or difference of opinion, nor would I tell someone they were wrong. I would just let them figure it out. At the same time, I was known for keeping others’ secrets, being loyal, dependable, fair, kind, and maybe even a pushover. At the time, I thought it was ok. I found value in knowing people could rely on those things about me.
I found value in being a great mother, employee, daughter, wife, and friend. It was important to me to uphold the attributes that were valuable to other people; thinking that It was OK to put my needs and what I thought about myself on the back-burner. I did not realize I was sacrificing who I am for what others thought I should be. I lived much of my life thinking that way.
My daughters and I were going over our family tree, and I mentioned a letter my mom had from my great grandmother. It was a short letter but it mentioned that my great grandmother was the Chief's daughter which made her a princess. My daughters immediately started calling themselves a Princess—descendants of royalty. I thought it was cute and didn't think anything of it at the time. But as I look back on it now, they understood their worth. And believe me, you couldn't tell them any different. Still can't.
In 2018 after my 2nd divorce, my theme for the year was Restoration Wendy 2018. I began a journey to find myself and figure out who I was, what I wanted, and who God created me to be. The marriage that ended that year allowed me to really see that I put far too much value on what people thought of me. I did not think about what God thought of me or what I thought of myself. That year and the years since then have been years of self discovery, self worth, and an elevated way of thinking.
I stopped the ‘stinking thinking’ and began to imagine my life on MY TERMS.
That opened up a new way of thinking for me. I began to ask myself, “Why not me? The dreams put on my heart are for me. God told me to speak out loud what I desired. Only then, will He be able to make it happen. These are some of the affirmations I say to myself to become greater and greater everyday.
I have the Power to be Happy!
I can make a difference in the world!
I believe in myself and my goals!
Today I am going to be my best self!
I am prepared to be successful!
I like myself for who I am!
I am building a Legacy!
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!
I am God’s Precious Daughter. It can’t get any better than that!
What are you telling yourself? Stop all stinking thinking; AND stinking speaking. It matters what you say about yourself. It may take time, but with practice…you will see your life change.